What Is Grief
Understanding Grief
If you’re here, it may be because you’re grieving. I hope these words meet you softly.
Grief is as normal as love is because it's the antidote to loss. It's how we heal.
Grief is the most natural response to loss. It affects us mentally, emotionally, physically, biologically, socially, spiritually, and behaviorally.
It touches every part of us—mind, heart, body, and spirit. It even reaches and touches our relationships.
You are not broken. It's not taking you too long to process it. There's nothing wrong with you. You don't feel too much. You're not too sensitive. And you're not too late.
How Grief Transforms Us
One of the greatest misconceptions about grief is that there is a single, “right” path— that if you walk far enough, you’ll eventually leave your grief behind, buried deep in the wilderness where it can’t find you again.
Another misconception is that you are meant to emerge from grief unchanged—
the same person you were when you entered it.
The truth is that grief transforms you.
It teaches you how to hold love and loss together, and through the inner journey, you emerge reshaped by its healing and intuitively wise process.
Like a river carving its presence through your inner wilderness,
so too will the landscape of your heart be transformed— learning to hold love and loss together.
How Grief Touches Us
But here’s the thing about grief: it needs to be witnessed by someone who is non-judgmental, empathic, and truly willing to hear what your heart is saying.
Sometimes, we need to talk about it over and over—and that may feel like too much to ask from those around us.
We worry that our grief might overwhelm others.
This is where a grief coach or companion can help—taking in your journey with patience and care.
Your grief will lead you along many trails through a dense forest. Some paths will bring memories into sharp focus, while others will leave you asking endless “what if” questions.
Grief is as unique as the rings of a tree—each layer telling a story of growth, love, loss, and adaptation.
It can be comforting and scary.
It can make sense or be confusing.
It can feel justifiable or unfair.
It can seem like a moment in time or a lifetime.
Grief can be gentle or overwhelming.
It can ___ and it can ___ —because after all, it's your grief..